The shoppers didn’t know that they were participants in a musical. It’s hilarious.
Sep 092011
The strength of an individual is not in the physical but the mental. It is his outlook and perception of self. The independence to determine himself. With that being said, today I was greeted with a bunch of messages from people who disagreed with my article about bisexual men. The main arguments were that I was “determining ‘people’s’ identity” and that I was “taking their identity away.” I was astounded by these assertions. To those claims, I reply: Individual’s shouldn’t relinquish their power of identity. Any person that submits their power of individuality to another person, is weak. Allowing someone to define you, is weakness! I would never submit my identity, individuality, and knowledge to anyone. It also amazes me that people wholly define themselves according to their sexual orientation. My definition of self is not based on sexual orientation; it doesn’t even come into existence. I define myself not by the physical or sexual, but by my experiences, knowledge, wisdom, and adventures. Let’s not allow for weakness to own our identity. Reclaim your power and define yourself.
On another note, my position about bisexual men is as stand. I’m unbreakable, unapologetic, and if you don’t like it, too bad!
Just for Laughs: Girl with Crazy Lipstick and a Horrible Voice Covers Chris Brown’s “Look at Me Now”
Sep 082011
I just have two words: Crazy, crazy!
Sep 082011
I was recently watching an episode of MTV’s True Life and the subject was people who were bisexual. One of the stories that really interested me was this young male. He, of course, dated both men and women but proclaimed that he would eventually like to settle down with a woman and have a family. One of his gay male friends told him that he was really confused and that he in fact was gay and not bisexual. As the episode went along, the guy met this young woman and after their first date he told her that he was bisexual. She said it was ok and they continued to date. However, after a few days she realized that she couldn’t handle dating a man who dates other men; so she ended their relationship.
Then yesterday I was watching an episode of Judge Mathis. The plaintiff in the case revealed to the court that she and the defendant (who is a man) were involved in a sexual relationship but she found out that he was also involved in a sexual relationship with her personal trainer who happened to be a man. She didn’t know that he was bisexual and she was livid and felt betrayed once she found out about it. However, the defendant was not remorseful and exclaimed that his sexual life was none of her business because they were not in a committed relationship. Judge Mathis didn’t agree with his argument and explained the dangers and health risks of his actions.
Afterwards I began thinking what if it was me? I hear a lot about women wanting to date bisexual men. They think it’s sexy and cool but I beg to differ. They’re just desperate. In my opinion any man who willingly have romantic/sexual relations with another man is gay; it doesn’t matter if he is also involved with women. I think bisexuality for men, is a phase of exploring actualized homosexuality but not wanting to admit that they are in fact gay. In the end bisexual men will not settle with a woman and if he does, later in his life he will leave to be what he truly is.
Having sex with both men and women is a dangerous game; it is filled with so many health risks -- one being the spread of HIV/AIDS. Men that have sex with men account’s for 61% of the newly reported HIV cases and every year that number increases. There is nothing wrong with homosexuality but when men are having sex with men and women, it’s dangerous. Not too many men are willing to admit that they are sexually involved with other men and as a result they pass infection on to unsuspecting women. Bisexual men just need to accept that they are homosexual, stop having sex with both men and women, and realize that there is nothing wrong with being gay. You’re born gay or straight, but not bisexual.
This young man discusses the stigma of being bisexual. He wants for women to be able to accept his past experiences and attraction for men but he realized that it is a difficult task. Women will judge his relationships with men as homosexuality and will not be open to dating him. It’s very interesting and candid way of looking at bisexuality.
Gage Skidmore
I always believe that you can adopt new things and ideas from other people and thus I am always looking for other women to be inspired by. Inspiration for me comes in the smallest packages; I am most inspired by little clichés and sayings. No matter your age, there are many things an individual can learn from others. However, as I am always keeping up with politics, I have to admit that Michele Bachmann fails to inspire me. Bachmann is running for president of this country and I couldn’t even imagine her becoming a republican nominee. She somehow got lost in a time warp and her conservatism is at a duel with comtemporary women.
Here is what I mean: Back in 2006 Bachmann gave a speech to a church in Minneapolis explaining why she became a tax lawyer. It was not her desire to be a tax lawyer, as she hated taxes. However, her husband Marcus Bachmann ordered her to do so and she did so because according to Bachmann, “the lord says ‘be submissive wives, you are to be submissive to your husbands.’ “
Obviously she’s a vampire that was born in the 17th century! Women have worked so hard and diligently to possess the civil rights and freedoms they currently have; clearly Bachmann doesn’t appreciate this. She is willing to submit her free will to her husband and lose her own voice. Her philosophy is dangerous to women’s rights.
Equally as important, Bachmann doesn’t believe in pro-choice. Women should have the only and final say in decisions that concern their bodies, lives, and health. Women that submit their reproductive freedoms are not completely free. No individual or government should regulate a woman’s reproductive activities. Bachmann seems to be anti-everything that is for the advancement of women. She does nothing to represent modern women. Bachmann is anti-freedom, anti-gay, and pro-submission. Although this is far-fetched, If she were elected president, I’m sure she would submit her powers to her husband. I just hope that she can disappear from out tv and computer screens. She is a poor representation of contemporary women and we all need to pray the Bachmann away!
I can’t believe this is what American politics has come to. It is such a joke!
Aug 312011
I love to turn on my ipod and listen to some Beyonce and by far one of my favorite songs right now is ‘Run the World (Girls)’. The song bought me back to the days in elementary school when the girls would chant “girls’ rule and boys drool”. While the song makes me proud to be a girl, it doesn’t exactly represent the truth of girls’ or women’s’ place in society. The reality is women run the world no more than Sarah Palin being able to give a history lesson; the potential is there, but it just isn’t utilized. Imagine singing that song in the Middle East or to a man that practices Islam; they would erupt into an uproar of laughter and tell us to sit down and shut up.
Even in the most progressive nation of this world, the United States, “girl’s running the world” is an enormous overstatement. This is evident in the most important sectors of our lives: relationships, the work place, and politics. The only place where girls have an edge is in education. If you were to step into a college classroom, you will see that women outnumber men. But, again, there are less women college professors than there are men.
This begs the question, when, if ever, will women overcome the subordination? Women have the potential to “run the world” but they need to come from underneath the turtle shell and protest, petition, and fight hard for their equality. It is important that women of the most suppressive cultures and religions develop a backbone and unite for the common good of their gender. Even though they have a lot more to accomplish, the women in the United States and other countries fought for their liberty and equality and now it is time for them to do so. When you stand up for what you believe in, it inspires other people. Look at the people in North Africa. They were tired of being controlled, so they rebelled – one rebellion inspired another rebellion.
Sometimes we need to make sacrifices. If our government isn’t giving us our liberty and equality, then the people are supposed to come together and demand it. Until that day is to come, women, in fact do not run the world, they sweep up the trash of men.
Aug 262011
If the reason you are considering plastic surgery is because you think you will feel better about yourself, I say, think twice! I don’t think there is anything wrong with plastic surgery, but if it is done to feel good about yourself, then plastic surgery will not work. The problem is not with the physical but in the way you feel about yourself. Your lack of self-esteem and confidence will not increase with changing your looks – it will only make more problems appear and nothing will ever be good enough or make you completely happy.
Your outlook is not controlled by the physical but by the mental. In this society it is understandable why people lack self-esteem. We adore beautiful things and beautiful people. Everyone tries so badly to imitate that ideal image created by the media, that we risk our own sanity to try to be equal.
The solution to feeling “perfect” is realizing that in fact no one is perfect! This is about having control of your perception. The way you perceive things has an effect on the way you view yourself. We should understand that beauty or “perfection” is subjective and not standard. What one person deems as pretty, another person deems us un-pretty. In having this understanding, individual’s can feel more secure about themselves.
Therefore if plastic surgery is done to elevate your self-esteem, I don’t think that will help. Work on your changing your perception and you won’t see yourself as bad as you do.
One of the characters that best illustrate this is Heidi Montag. She had ten plastic surgery operations done in just one day. The reasons she did the surgeries, as quoted in the Huffington Post but also mentioned in the video: “I was made fun of when I was younger, and so I had insecurities, especially after I moved to L.A. People said I had a “Jay Leno chin”; they’d circle it on blogs and say nasty things. It bothered me. And when I watched myself on The Hills, my ears would be sticking out like Dumbo! I just wanted to feel more confident and look in the mirror and be like, “Whoa! That’s me!” I was an ugly duckling before.“
However good she may have felt with her new look, after the surgeries were done, her satisfaction dissolved. She soon realized the mistake in transforming her entire face and body to something unrecognizable and in an interview with ABC news she quotes “I wish I could go back to the old Heidi.”
I have to admit that MTV’s Teen Mom is a guilty pleasure. Well, I’m not too ashamed of admitting I watch the show because I think it presents many different ways of viewing how individual’s deal with teen parenthood. But after watching last night’s episode, there were a few things that made me want to throw my remote at the television. However, before I go into the things that really grind my gear; I have to highlight the persons I especially adore on the show – Catelynn and Ryan.
I love Catelynn and Ryan’s story because they represent the families, children, and parents of adoption very well. For the children who have been adopted, Catelynn and Ryan show that for many parents, it was not an easy task to give up their child and there isn’t one day that passes by where they don’t think about their absent child. In giving up their baby, they were aware that they were acting in the baby’s best interest. They also understood that they couldn’t give the baby the adequate lifestyle as the adopted parents could. For children who are adopted and question their biological parent’s love and care for them, Catelynn and Ryan present an answer. Their story also shows how the families are affected by the adoption. Although I can’t stand the way Catelynn’s mom treats her, you can tell how upset and hurt she still is over the adoption of the baby. Most importantly, their story is about development, growth, and progress. Young teenagers can learn a whole lot from Catelynn and Ryan.
But then there are the rest of them – Amber, Farrah, and Maci. Let’s start with Amber. She is a mess! Her temper is very hot and her fuse is very short. The cursing, abuse, and bad attitude is too much to handle but it is a reflection into her upbringing. For me, it was obvious to realize that she came from a broken home. Her parents were hardly around and she seemed to be on her own. But then last week’s episode confirmed my suspicions. After her mom pissed her off at her child custody meeting, she yelled to her mom how bad of a parent she was. I sometimes do sympathize with her because it seem that she doesn’t have anyone to really turn to and support her, but she needs reforming and she should stick to seeing a counselor so that her life can get better and she can find happiness.
So next there is Farrah. Ugh! The one thing I was brought up with is major RESPECT for your parents. Farrah totally lacks it. I abhor the way she talks to her parents. Her total disrespect for her parents is disgusting and ugly. In last week’s episode, Farrah daughter’s paternal grandmother had taken her to court for visitation rights of Sophia (Farrah’s daughter). Farrah’s mom, Deborah, went along for support. While they were driving to the court, to lighten the mood and de-stress Farrah, Deborah mentioned a Barney costume for Sophia and Farrah just flipped on her mom and all hell broke loose. She started yelling at her telling her that she doesn’t want to talk about Barney. Then there was last night’s episode where she decided that she wanted to move to California. During lunch with her father, whom she calls Michael, she tells him the news of her wanting to move to California. Her father tries to give her sound advice but she just starts rolling her eyes, being sarcastic, raising the tone in her voice, and not trying to hear anything he was saying. She was like: Ok Michael! The next day, her mom asked her about the decision to move away from the family. Farrah just got so nasty and bitchy. In the midst of disrespecting her mother she asks “Will you watch Sophia for me” and continues on with the disrespect. She just better hope that Sophia will grow up to be a better child than she is.
Finally there’s Macy. Honestly, Macy was my favorite until last night’s episode. Maci seemed to be so level-headed and smart. I loved and still do admire that she is a great mother and she understands her commitment and responsibility to her son, Bentley. So in last night’s episode she comes out of nowhere and tells her boyfriend Kyle that she wants to have another baby – a girl to be precise. Then the next day she visits her mom with the issue and she reveals to her mom that she wants to have another baby because she is bored. WHAAAT!!!! If you are so bored you should have kept your classes, if you are so bored you should get a job, and if you are so bored you should volunteer and do something productive. You don’t suddenly decide you want to have a baby to relieve yourself of boredom-do something productive. This recklessness pissed me off. I immediately started thinking that it is time to kick her off of the show.
MTV and Teen Mom have a major responsibility to teenagers. Teenagers are easily influenced. The message of the show is supposed to be anti-parenthood and safe-sex. That episode went against everything the show is supposed to stand for. Instead of saying abstain from being a teen mom, she told them that when they are bored, have a baby. I also think that the show is making life more difficult. Amber mentioned this in last week’s episode. She doesn’t even want to go outside. The girls are on the cover of every gossip magazine. It’s very unhealthy for young women and children. For these girls to have a normal life, I think that it is time to retire them, especially Maci.
Breasts are the most beloved assets on a woman’s body but although loved by others, many women don’t even like the appearance of their breasts. Lots of women complain that their breasts are too small, too big, saggy, and uneven. Other women complain that their areola’s are too big and their nipples are too hard. Whatever the case may be, our breasts has a major influence on our self-esteem and confidence. So what is a girl to do? For some the solution is plastic surgery but many women can’t afford that luxury and therefore a really good bra is the only solution. But that is a temporary fix. When you go to undress yourself, you are yet again introduced to the problem. And even more scary is introducing them to your man or partner. This will be a daunting task filled with indecision and hesitation about how you should introduce your breasts to him. Should you tell him before hand, should you make excuses for not taking off your bra, should you only take your bra off in darkness, or should you just let them show and hope that he will accept them?
It is obvious that men love breast and for women with less than normal breasts, it will be a struggle to reveal them to a man. A woman may feel like men will reject her because of her breasts. There is no simple solution to this problem but I think that women should learn to accept what they have. Although we are constantly bombarded with these images of “perfect” breasts, the majority of these breasts are surgically or technologically enhanced and regular women have all different types, shapes, and sizes of breasts. And no one knows this more than men. But if a man can’t totally accept you, then he isn’t the right one. Something I learned is that, a woman should not define herself by the standards of others. No one person is perfect, even the person that seem to have it all. The formula is to take what you were given and make it the best. Shelter your physical imperfections with confidence and your problems will then become futile.
I found this video on Youtube. It is a compilation of two documentaries Busting Out and My Big Breasts and Me. These documentaries combine to create a different way to look at and appreciate your breasts. Many other cultures are less breast obsessed and the only responsibility of the breast is to nurture.
Aug 222011
Dating your best friend’s ex is such a hot topic that I thought that I would share my two cents. I honestly think that the answer is so simple. Within a best friendship, if the issue of dating your best friend’s ex comes up, then you are not a “best friend” at all, you are someone that cannot be trusted because you will eventually betray and deceive that person you refer to as your “best friend”.
Best friends are people that you love just as much and sometimes more than your own family and siblings. There is a strict code of respect, honor, care, and love that you have for this person. People reveal their most deepest and intimate feelings and secrets to their best friends—there is a blind trust. Imagine stealing from a blind person—that is the same as dating your best friend’s ex; it’s conniving, cold, and heartless.
Also, it’s disgusting to want to be with someone that had dated your best friend. Not only is it revealing of your character, but it gives you a bad name and reputation. I don’t think a guy is worth losing your best friend and your respect. There are millions of men for the taking, don’t betray your friendship because good friends are hard to come by!
This news is kind of late but i thought I should share it anyway. I can across this story on CNN about Jesse Osmun from Connecticut. He was a Peace Corp Volunteer who was stationed in South Africa to work in an AIDs center. But instead of giving peace he gave hell. According to CNN:
A former Peace Corps volunteer from Connecticut is charged with sexual abuse of several preschool children in South Africa last year.
Jesse Osmun, 31, worked at an AIDS center in Greytown, South Africa, that provided education, food and other services to children between the ages of 3 and 15, a criminal complaint says.
Osmun, while volunteering at the center’s preschool facility, allegedly sexually molested at least five girls under the age of 6, according to the complaint.
The complaint also alleges he engaged in illicit sexual conduct with one of the girls, approximately 5 years old, twice a week for five months.
Osmun was confronted by the AIDS center program manager in May 2011 after a preschool teacher alleged that when she observed him in a toy room of the facility with three little girls, Osmun appeared startled and zipped up his pants.
The complaint states that one of the children told a school official Osmun had given her candy in exchange for oral sex.
Osmun initially denied any illicit activity but “subsequently admitted that he had touched one of the children under her clothes,” the complaint says.
It says Osmun asked to resign from the Peace Corps and returned to the United States on June 2.
An investigation was launched into the sexual allegations, and Osmun was arrested Thursday at his home in Milford, Connecticut, where, the complaint states, “Osmun began to admit that he molested children (at the preschool) and provide details about the molestation.”
He appeared before a federal judge in Bridgeport and was detained.
Osmun’s attorney, federal public defender Sarah Merriam, declined to comment.
Osmun would face a maximum penalty of 30 years in prison and a fine of $250,000 if convicted of the charge of traveling outside of the United States to engage in sexual conduct with a minor.
“Mr. Osmun is charged with a shocking breach of the power entrusted to him as a Peace Corps volunteer,” said Assistant U.S. Attorney General Lanny Breuer. “Allegedly, he repeatedly sexually abused five minor girls under the age of 6 — horrific crimes.”
The Peace Corps issued a statement saying it “was made aware of the allegations against the former volunteer after Osmun resigned from Peace Corps and departed South Africa. Once notified, the agency immediately contacted the appropriate authorities.
“The Peace Corps will continue to cooperate with American and South African law enforcement authorities,” it said, adding that all Peace Corps volunteers undergo background checks. Source
I don’t have many things that I hate, but of the few, violence against children is number one. Instead of performing goodwill he decided to sexually abuse babies. I will never understand how people can hurt children and even more, how grown adults can be sexually attracted to children. It disgusting and sickening. I hope he burn in hell.
Aug 182011
For many people sex is this fantasic euphoria but it can mean more bad than good. That’s why no matter what, you should always put your health first and here’s how:
- Take control: It’s your body and your life so make rules that your partner must abide by.
- All or nothing: If your partner refuses to abide by all of your rules, don’t have sex with him because he doesn’t respect you.
- Get tested: Before you have sex with a new partner, make sure that he and you both get tested. And if you are in a relationship, I would recommended still getting tested every six months.
- Safe sex is the best sex: Always use a condom even if you are in a relationship. We don’t always know what our partners are up to. I’ve heard and read hundreds of stories where women were infected by their partners of many years.
- His stories is dirty sex: Guys will try persuade you into having unprotected sex by telling stories about condoms breaking, it’s easier to withdrawal, he got a girl pregnant by using a condom,… Don’t fall for it!
- Annual Screenings: Make it a habit of getting annual pap tests and STD testing, especially for chlamydia and gonorrhea: most times these disease have no symptoms and if left untreated they can cause infertility.
- If you see something, STOP!: If your are about to engage in sex and you notice something abnormal on your partner, don’t proceed with sex. Stop and ask him about it. But I would recommend not having sex until you are sure about it which is rule #3: Get tested!
- Condoms, Condoms, & Condoms: always carry condoms on you. Therefore he can not give you an excuse.
- Above the Influence: Don’t let anyone influence you into harming your health. Always question “Is a few minutes of satisfaction worth the damage unprotected sex can cause?”
- Be SMART!
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